The Powers of a Positive Attitude

I am going to ask you to something very weird right now. First of all, I want you to listen to your thoughts. Now tell me, what thoughts fill your head? Would you label them as positive, or negative?

Now let’s say you are walking down the street with these thoughts. Do you think anyone who would meet you would be able to tell you what’s on your mind?The answer to number one is up to you. But, the answer number two can be pretty generic. Although people will not be able to tell you exactly what you think, they will more or less have an idea of how you are feeling. Here’s another question. When you enter a party filled with friends, do they all fall silent as if something terrible had happened? Or does everybody there perk up as if waiting for something exciting to happen?You know what? The answer to all these depends on your frame of mind.

Thoughts are very powerful. They affect your general attitude.

The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too – unless, of course, you are a great actor.

And it doesn’t end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you.

The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative.Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them.

People tend to shy away from those who carry a negative attitude.We can also define attitude as the way of looking at the world. If you choose to focus on the negative things in the world, more or less you have a negative attitude brewing up. However, if you choose to focus on the positive things, you are more likely carry a positive attitude.You have much to gain from a very positive attitude.

For one, studies have shown that a positive attitude promotes better health. Those with this kind of attitude also have more friends. projecting a positive attitude also helps one to handle stress and problems better than those who have a negative attitude.A positive attitude begins with a healthy self-image. If you will love the way you are and are satisfied, confident, and self-assured, you also make others are around feel the same way.

A negative attitude, on the other hand, has, of course, an opposite effect. So, carrying a negative attitude has a twofold drawback. You feel bad about yourself, and you make others feel the same way.If you want to have a positive attitude, you have to feature healthy thoughts. This is probably very hard to do nowadays since, all around us, the media feeds us nothing but negative thoughts.

A study shows that for every 14 things a parent says to his or her child, only one is positive. This is truly a saddening thought.If you want a healthier outlook in life, you need to think happy thoughts, and you have to hear positive things as well. So, what can you do?

Well, for starters, you could see a funny movie, you could play with children, spend some time telling jokes with friends. All these activities fill you with positive stimuli, which in turn promotes positive attitude.

Although it is impossible to keep ourselves from the negative things around us, you can still carry a positive attitude by focusing on the good things, the positive things in life.And this positive attitude you now carry can be of benefit to other people. Sometimes when other people feel down, the thing people mostly do is try to give them advice. But sometimes, all they need is somebody to sit by them, and listen to them. If you have a positive attitude you may be able to cheer them up without even having to say anything.If positive attitude is really great, why do people choose to adopt a negative attitude instead?

One who carries a negative attitude may be actually sending a signal for attention. Before you get me wrong, feeling sad, angry, or gloomy is not wrong itself. But dwelling on these thoughts for far too long is not healthy either. There is a time to mourn. As always, if you are beset by troubles, even in your darkest hour, focus on the good things in life, you will always have hope. Problems become something you can overcome.You do not have much to lose by adopting a healthy, positive attitude. Studies show that such an attitude actually retards aging, makes you healthier, helps you develop a better stress coping mechanism, and has a very positive effect on all the people you meet every day. So, what’s not to like about a positive attitude? Adopt one today.

Positive Psychology and Coaching

There are several psychological approaches one can take for a coaching session or coaching in general. Behavioural coaching, cognitive behavioural coaching, psycho dynamic approach and NLP (neuro linguistic programming) are such known approaches for coaching. Positive psychology is another contemporary approach for coaching preferred by many psychologists and coaches in the world today.

Seligman and Csikszentmihalyi (2000) defined positive psychology as ‘the scientific study of optimal human functioning’. It involves with positive subjective experiences, positive individual traits, and positive institutions. Valued subjective experiences include well-being, satisfaction, and contentment (in the past), hope and optimism (for the future) and flow and happiness (in the present). At the individual level, it is about positive individual traits, such as capacity for love and vocation, courage, aesthetic sensibility, interpersonal skills, perseverance, forgiveness, originality, future mindedness, spirituality, talent and wisdom. At the group level, it is about civic virtues and institutions that move individuals towards better citizenship such as responsibility, nurturance, altruism, civility, tolerance and work ethics.

Consistent with its guiding principles, findings from positive psychology research are now beginning to be applied across multiple domains and most importantly for the benefit of the individuals who reside along the points of mental health continuum. This includes not only those who seek relief from psychological distress and mental illness which is the traditional focus of psychology, but also those who seek optimal levels of personal functioning and wellbeing.

The outcome of interest to positive psychology may be defined as those subjective social and cultural states that characterise a ‘good life’. Here we may think of factors such as happiness, wellbeing, fulfilment and health (at the subjective level), positive communities, institutions that foster good lines (at the interpersonal level) and political, economical and environmental policies that embrace diversity and promote harmony (citizenship) and sustainability (at the social level).

Having understood the basics of positive psychology, it is now important to consider the possible integration of positive psychology and coaching.

Coaching can be defined as the process of support offered to an individual which is performance focused, and goal centred and results in action (Law, Ineland & Hussain 2007). Coaching can be done with individuals, teams, and organizations with the intention of helping the client to see options for becoming more effective. When it comes to individuals, It involves unlocking a person’s potential to maximize his/ her own performance. As this explanation makes it clear, the general interest of positive psychology resonate with the general aims of coaching in practice.

The aim of the coaching is to focus on the strength of character and personality that makes the “good life” possible. Strengths conceived in this way seems an excellent component of coaching framework and so it is unsurprising that one of the newest waves of coaching is based on positive psychology. The central concern of this approach is that coaching should focus on the coachee’s strengths and values rather than weaknesses. The coach should consider coachee’s taxonomy of strength and determine how these strengths are (or are not) being used by the organization. Building strength is an effective means of increasing performance & job functionality.

Positive emotions are another important topic on the positive psychology. Because positive emotions work on optimal wellbeing, people can experience positive emotions such as joy, interest, contentment and love and when these emotions are present, sadness, anger and anxiety tend to be absent.

Emotional competence offers insights into our own personal development in fairly natural way without speed training. When an individual is guided to develop self-regulation, self-monitoring and focus on non-distressing aspect of the situation in question, emotions like anger, depression, anxiety, can be well managed. Helping clients manage their emotions and begin develop emotional competence are another important aims of coaching.

Yet another interesting concept discussed in positive psychology which can be easily applied in coaching practice is concept of ‘Flow’. Csikszentmihalyi (1991) defined ‘flow’ as ‘the psychology of optimal human experience’. It is a state where the person become utterly absorbed in the task to the extent that he/she loses the track of time and the study of flow has obvious potential use by executive coaches. Being in flow enables individuals to focus on tasks more fully and to maximize performance. As this phenomenon results in pleasure being experienced whilst mastery is gained, it can be a natural aid to goal oriented activities such as coaching.

Positive psychology has a great deal of promise in the area of coaching. These two areas seems to become intertwined. Certainly positive psychology has shifted the way in which psychologists and clients work with each other as well as broadened the context of that involvement.

Author: Ms Jayamini Samaratunga
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