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Developmental Coaching: Life Transitions and

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Developmental Coaching: Life Transitions and

Description:Developmental Coaching explores many of the common transition points we experience throughout life, including teenage transitions, becoming a parent, mid-life and retirement. The book sets these transitions in their social context and reviews them in the light of generational factors.

 

The book is introduced with key psychological concepts from areas such as lifespan development and positive psychology, in addition to insights from other disciplines, including management theory and sociology. The main topics of discussion are :

 

  • coaching tools and techniques
  • broader societal and generational trends
  • how coaching can help individuals to realise positive growth.

 

 

 

With case studies throughout, Developmental Coaching offers an essential resource for practising coaches, coaching psychologists, counsellors and other professionals who wish to further their knowledge of the developmental aspects of coaching and dealing with life transitions.

  • Binding: Paperback
  • Creator: Stephen Palmer
  • Creator: Sheila Panchal
  • EAN: 9780415473606
  • Edition: 1
  • ISBN: 0415473608
  • Label: Routledge
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  • Manufacturer: Routledge
  • NumberOfItems: 1
  • NumberOfPages: 240
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  • ProductTypeName: ABIS_BOOK
  • PublicationDate: 2010-12-20
  • Publisher: Routledge
  • SKU: AC2064840
  • Studio: Routledge
  • Title: Developmental Coaching: Life Transitions and Generational Perspectives (Essential Coaching Skills and Knowledge)

Price: 28.15

The 5 Steps To Make It Brilliantly In Coaching

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After years of struggling, of wasted time and resources, you still haven’t found the key to a successful coaching business, to do what you love and get paid for it. You still wonder how others have made it, even with few resources, while you keep going round in circles, trying to get more clients and increase your revenue.

You may find it hard to believe, but the only difference between you and them is the way you perceive your coaching. They made it in coaching because they focused on the business aspect of their work and because they always have an open mind to what is new.

You still only use the old strategies you have learned in coaching school. These other coaches always search for ways to improve their knowledge, their expertise, and to implement that in useful programmes and products. Yes, they are always on a quest. They may not always succeed, but at least they know they should keep going, do something about it and try things from a different angle.

You can also make it big if you see yourself as an entrepreneur. Study the market where you want to launch your business, find all the common problems people have and then work on products, programmes and sessions which can help them solve their problems. Create value, develop solutions; that’s what you must do.

So the steps you have to take from the beginning are not complicated, but they will help you realise where you can find clients and, most importantly, how clients can find you:

1. Define your target market.

Find the clients who need your help, your expertise. Find the problems they have in common and see what you can do to help them. Once you know you have the solution to their problems, then position yourself as the person they must work with to get the results they want.

2. Find your target.

Where could you find those clients who need this solution? If you find your target market, you find your target also. Let people know you are aware of their problems and you understand them. Show them you are the expert they need.

3. Use the internet to reach a large number of people.

It is the fastest way I know and it can help set up a strategy which reaches as many people as possible. Plus, it is very effective as far as costs and time are concerned, and it opens your door to a world you cannot even imagine.

4. Create automated systems.

These systems will allow you to focus your time on real value, on “what” to sell and not “how” to sell. Create a website where you can sell all your products and programmes in an automated system. It will prove useful even when you are not working.

5. Get others to help you.

It is true that all those coaches who have made it didn’t do it by themselves. You can hire a Virtual Assistant, who could help you with the technicalities, so you can focus on revenue-generating activities.

As you can see, there are only a few steps to take, but these steps could make a huge difference to your business once you put them into practice. These are cost effective strategies you could use any time you decide to. It is time to make a change, it is time to step up and make it brilliantly in the coaching business. After all, it is one of the reasons why you became a coach, isn’t it?

Now, we have the best opportunity for you to learn how to make it in coaching. Join us in the FREE Gift Giveaway and Teleseminar Series called The Santa Coach Event, where more than 20 successful coaches will gladly share their expertise with you and show you how they made it brilliantly in this business. This is your unique chance to be part of such a special event!

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Therapy Or Coaching – What Does A Client Need?

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There has been many ponderings on the essential differences between therapy and coaching. Writers have pointed out that if you have problems and are anxious you need therapy. If you are fine but want to make improvements to your life – opt for a series of coaching sessions.

They go on to say therapy involves various interventions to change an unhelpful outlook. And coaching aims to help the client find answers and insights to issues through questions. Both facilitate change but in different ways.

In essence that is a helpful guideline but the lines are blurred particularly when a therapist like myself uses solution focused brief therapy. However I have found that being aware of either side of that line is really helpful when setting goals with my clients.

A time for therapy

Gerry was suicidal. Two years prior to seeing me he had been mugged, he had also nursed his father though the latter stages of terminal cancer. After returning to work he was distressed to discover that the company he had devoted many years to, had severe financial difficulties. His job was on the line and this became the straw that broke the camels back. The threat of redundancy and cutbacks caused Gerry high anxiety and sleepless nights. Exhausted and worried he slipped into depression.

When he first came to see me I found that Gerry had developed post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from the mugging and the trauma of nursing his father. Not knowing if he would be made redundant or not had increased the pressure and thrown him into a highly emotional state. The constant rumination and worry locked him into a negative train of thoughts.

The goal was clear – Calm down the emotions first

So what did I do? In the presence of high anxiety there is only one route and that is to break the grip of the PTSD and anxiety. The brain does not know the difference between what is real and imagined. Worrying about loosing your job or it really happening causes the body to respond in the same way. When fear is present the conscious logical mind is made to play second fiddle to the highly aroused emotional brain.

PTSD and anxiety acts like a magnet to attention

No matter how brilliant your talking approach is, unless you are able to calm a stressed out ruminating mind, the person sat in front of you will not be available for change. Fear will cause attention to constantly be drawn to the stimulus and feelings around those fears.

High emotion stops coaching questions being processed

Any amount of inspired questions from an attentive coach will be like water off a ducks back as the brain struggles to process words and their meaning. Creative thinking is bypassed as worry imprisons the imagination, curtailing positive problem solving or the development of new ideas.

Thinking out of the box requires the person being coached to be ‘present’

A coach once said to me that having the person in front of them really present is crucial to a beneficial coaching outcome. Because searching for solutions can take time and can become an arduous process if the brain keeps getting pulled off track by anxiety issues.

Have you had the experience of being asked a question that you find difficult and your brain feels as if it is doing loops? Time disappears as your mind goes on an inner search to find an answer. This is a very creative process and requires logic and imagination to drip-feed each other. This can only happen in a brain that isn’t preoccupied with high stress.

Coaching after therapy

Once Gerry was feeling much better he decided he wanted some help in making decisions about his working life. The past few years had made him ‘ see life in a different way’ and he now questioned many of the things he had valued in the past. Here was where the main change of therapeutic direction came in.

Drop the techniques and reframes

No longer was I focused on helping Gerry to see the world in a more beneficial light but was asking questions to help him discover who he was now. No suggestions, no obvious reframes, no techniques or advice – just focused questions and practical exercises that would help Gerry find out what made him feel good. Stirring Gerry’s imagination enabled him to discover what was important to him, what made him feel good and how he could start to build his life from this authentic platform.

A radical shift occurs when relevant non leading questions are asked

Gerry was surprised to find himself articulating how happy he could be if he lived nearer his brother and family. How it brought a huge sense of relief to think of stepping out of the corporate world and going into business with his brothers catering company. And after a couple more sessions he had formulated a way to do this. He is now living that life he envisioned, happy and empowered.

So coaching or therapy?

Essentially different but after the presenting problem has been overcome you can use a less directive form of communication and help your client become clearer about what they want for the future, the direction they are going, be more energized and motivated. And because that person can know themselves better than any other – asking clean, solution focused, thought provoking questions is the way to achieving that.

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Jill Wootton is an advanced hypnotherapist and trainer who helps many people on a one to one basis as well as providing hypnotherapy training through her company – Within Sight Training.

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Coaching and Personal Development

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Coaching and personal development – simply getting much, much, more out of your life, sooner than you thought possible.

What is coaching and how could you benefit?

We are all well aware of coaches working in sport but what exactly do they do and what is coaching outside of sport? Well the answer is that coaching is the action of improving personal knowledge and development and growth in any area. Just as with the sports coach there is a close alliance between coach and client that is dedicated to the outcomes of the client. Coaching enables individuals to look at their lives in the whole taking into account all areas of a persons’ life and reconsidering the goals, activity and direction in each area as well as the balance between competing demands. The main reason why people turn to coaches to simply to get more out of life, whether this is in terms of relationships, career, health, sport, well being, spirituality, learning, life-style, or creativity. Typically people turn to coaches when they are no longer getting the results that they are seeking. This point can be a crisis, period of transition, or it can even be a frustration in a particular aspect of personal performance. Many people, however, are now aware of the benefits of coaching and are realising that they can get more out of any aspect of their lives through working with a coach well before aspects of their lives begin to become problematic.

A keen equestrian has a fall and looses confidence and works with a coach to rebuild her confidence. Realising the changes she continues to develop her understanding of her work life values and relationships and makes changes in her life and work as a result.

A highly successful businessman works with a coach to improve his golf game – realises the approaches are applicable to his business life and continues to develop his goals and motivation together with a breakthrough session to remove limiting beliefs which he found holding him back. His target – to double his business in twelve months. He takes an NLP Practitioner Course and develops a new range of approaches to working with himself and with others clearly confident in doubling his income which he does.

A teacher takes a distance learning coaching course to work with students better, realises he has no life goals or targets himself and sets about transforming his life, doubles his salary, gets a new house and eventually lets go of old beliefs and values and embarks on a totally new career and life-style.

Coaching is about personal transformation and growth. It teaches us that we have options in every aspect of our lives. It shows us why we live within frameworks of values, beliefs, behaviours, and habits and it gives us choice in every area.

So why do so may people spend so much time and money on self help books with such limited impact? The reason is simple. When you are learning about your own mind it’s far more effective to work with another, more skilled mind to get the changes you want. Coaches compel to action simply through natural human interaction. They challenge with skilful questions at the right time. They provoke within a context of rapport to challenge beliefs and values. They enlighten with a range of approaches and techniques to reveal to the client representations of the clients own experience which they simply were not aware of. Coaches work within what they call a framework of ecology. What this means is that they consider all the consequences of any course of action for a client. Yes a client could double his or her income but if this had a negative impact on their health or relationships the coach can easily lead the client to a deep understanding of all the consequences of their action so that they can adjust behaviour accordingly.

The Coaching Process

The coaching process is focussed on you. It begins with a detailed personal history which is much more than it sounds. It’s not just a detailed personal history in terms of your upbringing relationships, career etc. It will start your internal unconscious processes working to re-evaluate your values and aspirations before any formal work begins.

You may complete an audit and review of your current context and then choose an area to work on.

Breakthrough

The coach then begins an intensive programme called a breakthrough process which elicits and ranks your core values in a chosen area of your life – typically these are broad contexts such as Relationships, Career, Wealth, Health, and can also focus on personal contexts such as creativity, spirituality, and sporting interests.

Addressing limiting beliefs, behaviours and values

In order to be able to move forward in your life the coach works with you to identify the limits which your pervious learning, experience and upbringing may be placing on you. Having identified these the coach will use specific techniques which will then give you choice over whether to modify these or not. Learning that you have choice over these aspects of you make up is a tremendously liberating experience – hence the breakthrough tag on the process.

Creating a new pattern to live to

We all work and life to our own internal patterns, goals and aspirations. We do this whether we acknowledge this or not. These patterns shape our daily and lifelong behaviour. Becoming aware of the programmes we operate by through working with a skilled professional coach and giving ourselves choice over these is the key point of the whole coaching process.

Working with your coach, using specific techniques, the coach will assist you in the development of a revised personal conceptualisation – plan – vision – sense of – schema – of your present and future life. The imprinting events which shape our lives for decades are acquired really quickly and can be revised just a quickly. In fact, when we realise where our imprinting events are we can be shocked at how casually we adopt these and the lasting impact they have on us long, long after they were relevant or served our personal needs.

The coach knows how to develop your new internal aspirations and programmes with you so that they impact on your daily beliefs and behaviours and then works with you to achieve this.

Follow up

This is the followed up by a process of clean up of any further limiting beliefs, less helpful behaviours or sustaining new changes.

Ideally you will now have a very detailed written description of your future in every respect. The writing process is important to pattern unconscious learning into conscious thought – this directs the attention of the unconscious mind which then automatically matches actions, thoughts, opportunity taking to meet the new programmes you are working towards.

Choosing a coach

There are no standard qualifications which coaches have to have but there are some standards which will give you a great deal of security in choosing someone to work with. You will see many coaching courses available however these may not give the coach the full range of skills needed. The main ones to check for are that they have an advanced qualification in Neuro Linguistic Programming. You should know that there are three of four levels of qualification:

NLP Diploma A Three or Four day Qualification which is an introduction. If you are interested in your own personal development then this would be a good place for you to start with yourself. There are though, far too any people operating as coaches with only a Diploma or Certificate in NLP.

NLP Practitioner This is a qualification which take between seven to sixteen days to achieve and is the minimum standard you should work with. They will have a good grounding in the techniques and approaches needed to coach you. They might also have additional coaching qualifications but these are generally focussed on goal setting and low level rational processes which are limited in effectiveness without the Practitioner Certification. You will see Coaches with NLP Coaching Certification as well -such coaches are well prepared to support you in your development.

NLP Master Practitioner This is the ideal training needed to coach you. Master Practitioners are able to work with values, beliefs, behaviours, limiting beliefs, early patterning issues and even significant trauma. Ideally they will have additional certification in Hypnotherapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy thought this is a useful bonus and not essential.

NLP Trainer Such coaches have generally the highest level of capability of skills available and can work fluidly and flexibly to coach you to the outcomes you are looking for. They should be actively training and you should be able to assess their abilities by attending one of their shorter seminars.

Coaching is about working with you to achieve personal excellence in any area of your life. Many coaches set themselves up in response to some sort of unwanted transition in their lives. Why model these people? Choose a coach who is successful and effective in their own lives. You may not personally like them but you are not looking for a friend – you may need someone who can lead you out of your comfort zone

What you can do on your own

There are many ‘Be Your Own Life Coach’ books available which will give you a good introduction to personal development. Similarly there are many books available on Coaching and NLP which you may find useful. Free coaching course are available and a good introduction to personal development for participants as opposed to setting up a practice. You would certainly get a lot from taking an NLP Diploma or Practitioner course as this will give you considerable personal advantages and flexibility. Some coaching practices Charge less for a practitioner course than they do for a coaching package in the belief that it represents better value to the client. That is something you need to decide yourself.

In practical terms today go online and look for a wheel of life exercise and complete this. Then spend some times writing out a set of goals for your future setting out in detail what you want your life to be like in three years time, one years time, and what you will do every week to achieve this.

You are not stuck with the life you currently have. You have the life you have now because of your beliefs, values and behaviours. All of these can be changed so that they align with the life you want now rather than the life you wanted then.

Andy is a certified NLP trainer who has trained with John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St CLair and Michael Carrol. After a long career in Special Education Andy specialised in working with Young people with severe emotional and behavioural difficulties as well as leadership and management as a headteacher. He works as a trainer with SimplyNLP.Me in the North of England. You can learn more now about the high quality NLP training he offers at: http://simplynlp.me

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The Clear Path to Passive Income for Solution Focused Coaching Businesses

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If you have a solution focused coaching business, then you understand that coaching is just one way to deliver your solution. And if you’re like most coaches, you don’t want to just offer one-on-one services, but also earn passive income.

Who doesn’t like to wake up in the morning to find emails saying “You’ve made a sale”.

And while it’s absolutely possible to create a passive income business, the reality is that for most coaches and other solo professionals, it doesn’t happen overnight.

There is a path that is generally the easiest to follow:

  • start with one-on-one services
  • then create leveraged income
  • and then passive income.

Why is it easiest to start with one-on-one services? Simply put, it’s the fastest path to the cash. As a coach or consultant, it’s easier to start by selling your time than by creating packaged programs.

Once you’ve delivered your services one-on-one, you can now take the system you’ve used with your one-on-one clients, and tweak it and package it in a group format. That creates leveraged income. Delivering the program still relies on your personal involvement, but because you’re delivering it to more than one person at a time, you’ve now created leveraged income. Yeah! Leveraged income lets you help more people and earn more for the same investment of your time.

Now things really start to happen. In working with your one-on-one and group clients, your system gets clearer and clearer. You’ll find that you keep saying the same things over and over, you keep hearing the same questions, the same challenges keep coming up, etc… You can now package your system and sell it as a passive income program.

There is no end to how you can create leveraged and passive income. Home study programs, group coaching programs, ebooks, teleseminar series, bootcamps, micro-continuity programs, membership programs, etc…

Everyone learns differently and people need (and can afford) different levels of support. So it’s important to have a variety of ways you can deliver your solutions.

The key to making it all happen is having a signature system that you follow. Once you know your system, it’s just a matter of packaging it and delivering it in a variety of different ways.

And of course, you won’t perfect your system unless you have a clear niche. It’s only when you work with a specific group of people and focus on specific solutions that you have enough focus to create your own signature system.

It’s like playing six degrees of separation. No matter how you spin it, building a successful (and leveraged) business requires a clear niche marketing strategy.Get that straight, and you’ll be amazed at how much easier it is to market yourself and earn more income.

Cindy Schulson, Founder of AttractYourNiche.com, helps coaches, consultants and other solo professionals find their niche and attract their ideal clients. In order to market yourself with ease, you have to know WHO you want to attract, WHAT solution you provide and WHY people should work with you. Cindy helps her clients put together these three pieces of the “Niche Puzzle”so they can attract their ideal clients, earn more and market less.

Cindy’s Niche Success Kit has helped guide thousands of solo professionals on the road to finding and attracting their ideal niche. Grab a free copy at at Attract Your Niche

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Life Coaching 101 – Differentiating Certifiable and Certified Coaches

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With the changes in the present economy, more people have chosen to take up life coaching as a profession. Anyone can choose to become a life coach. However, not everyone can make a living out of it. There are a lot of coaches nowadays who are struggling with the bills to pay, while worrying where they will find their next client.

The increasing number of life coaches who offer their services could mean that there is competition in terms of finding clients. It is important that you find ways to stand out among the others in order for you to attract clients. One way of doing so is by getting a life coach certification from an accrediting body.

Anyone can become certifiable coach as long as he has the skills. Most companies look for certified coaches, especially for those who are involved in the executive departments of a company. However, being a certified coach does not always mean that you can find guaranteed success. There are several coaches with no certification who have become successful.

If you choose to become a certified life coach, there are two things that you should consider. This is either to get an accreditation from the International Coach Federation (ICF) or the International Coaching Association (ICA). What’s the difference between the two?

ICF Certification

Being a certified coach under ICF means that you will need to go to a training school or university which offers a coaching training program that meets the standards of ICF. Regardless if you have previous experiences as a coach, like being a gym trainer, counselor, etc., you will be required to undergo a training program from an accredited school which takes at least six months to two years. However, upon completion of your course, you are able to get certification as a coach. One is from the accredited training school and the other, from ICF.

This route can be an advantage, especially if you’ve just started being a life coach and has no proper background in doing so. By going through the coaching course, you will be able to learn different things that you may need to know in being a life coach and how to help your clients.

ICA Certification

On the other hand, if you have already been coaching and had previous experiences, then taking the ICA route towards becoming an accredited coach might be the best to take. Getting a certification under ICA no longer requires you to undergo a specific number of training hours, training periods or even the number of hours that you have interacted with clients. You will only be required to take an exam to test your competency as a coach. If you already have previous experiences as a coach, then it may only take you 23-months time to be able to process and take the exam.

Being a certified coach can be a great advantage in getting hired as a life coach. However, one thing that you should also give time to consider is your marketing skills and how you sell yourself. Most coaches fail not because they have no skills as coaches, rather, they lack skills in marketing.

Christina Cordle enjoys writing for Coachestrainingblog which is an online resource on how to become a life coach and become a business coach as well as other related subjects.

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The Life Coaching Process In Action

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In this article I am going to show a life coaching process that I particularly find practical and can help clients in a simple and direct way while maintaining effective results.

This life coaching process is made of four main questions that are brought from two different disciplines; life coaching and emotional intelligence. The four main questions are:

1- What do you want?

Somehow we have developed an incredible skill and experience in defining and expressing what we don’t want. Once we face ourselves and try to define what we want we get speechless and our words don’t flow smoothly anymore.

Answering this question is basic ingredient for success in anything that want to achieve. Make sure to state what you want rather than what you don’t want.

2- What are your options?

If we get an idea regarding achieving what we want we jump ahead without even considering the fact that other options might be available. We get emotionally attached to the first idea that seems doable.

The best way is answer this question is through a brainstorming session allowing yourself to state every single option that might cross your mind without evaluating the sanity of the options stated.

This is not the time for evaluation. With this question allow all options to be considered.

3- What is the best option?

Answering this question will allow you to evaluate all the options that you have stated in the previous question. here is a suggestion on how to arrive to the best option:

a) Delete all options that are totally out of the question for implementation. If you think that any option has a small chance of being implemented keep it in the list for now. Only delete those that there is no way you might consider for implementation.

b) With the remaining options choose a prioritization method. Some examples of such prioritization methods are:

i) Importance

ii) Ease of implementation

iii) Faster results

iv) Effectiveness..etc

Once you have prioritized your options you will start planning for implementing your first option and the plan might start with the question “what is the first step?”

4- How do you feel?

Once you choose your best option, you need to check with yourself and the emotions that have developed once you have chosen the option.

In some cases we might choose the option that we have to consider and not the one that we feel comfortable with. This scenario might cause us to choose an option that we might not have capabilities for or one that will not motivate us to accomplish.

This might cause the usual procrastination that stopped us from achieving this goal in the first place. Choose the option that best serves your goal and one that you feel motivated to do.

We wish you all the best in achieving your goals and moving forward with your life.

Rami Doleh is a Certified Life Coach, Certified International Professional Trainer, Certified in Emotional Intelligence and a Thetahealing Practitioner with a MBA in International Business & more than 17 years of work experience. He has changed his focus from setting and achieving targets for companies to helping individuals setting their own goals, discover their true potential and create the life that they desire.

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3 Learning Points From Coaching Practice Sessions

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When starting a coaching session with your coachee for anything but the first time, it’s possible that there will be actions to follow up on from the last session. It’s important to remember that these actions are the coachee’s actions and not my own, so the responsibility to complete these actions is 100% with the coachee.

I noted this in a recent coaching session that I was having, despite the fact that I hadn’t completed the actions in full, no issue was made about it at the start of the session as this would have led to a negative conversation about problems which was not going to be the ideal place to start. Mid way through the session we did get back round to some of the actions and then tackled things in a more positive light.

What stood out most for me in this learning session was the power of the question “why” and in particular how that power is a negative one. During one practice coaching session I was acting as the coachee, the conversation (as far as I was concerned) was going well and I was feeling good. Half way through the session my coach asked me a question which started with the word “why” and my mood changed in an instant. I dropped from a state that bordered on euphoria to one that bordered on anger and the only thing that came into my head was “what gives you the right to ask me that question?”. (I didn’t say it, I just thought it!).

For me there are two learning points about the question why that are related to my experience:-

  1. Judgement – the why question can appear judgmental despite the fact that you as a coach may only be asking it out of interest. It’s this apparent judgement that (whether there or not) caused my mood swing away from the positive.

  2. Transition from feeling to head. Prior to the “why” question I was feeling good, I was in conversation, totally unaware of anything outside of my immediate environment (ref “In-between” of the SIMPLE coaching principle) and completely in the here and now. As soon as the “why” question was posed I was back inside my head and aware that I was being coached.

These two points are further elaborated when we think about rapport, building rapport and being in rapport. The theory goes that unless you are in rapport, change is not going to take place or looking at it another way, when as a coachee I’m fully in the present, feeling and sensing, this when I’m ready to make a change.

Whichever way you care to look at it, rapport between the coach and coachee is essential. One image used to demonstrate the process of getting in rapport is to think about the layers of an onion and as you peel them away you get closer to the core ie. the real personality.

Now I’m no good at graphics so I’m going to demonstrate this linearly with the layers from the outer to the core and together with this I’ll give you some examples of what people might say as the layers are stripped away and we get closer to rapport.

Outer Layer – - – - – - – - – - – - – - – - Out of Rapport

Ritual / Cliché – - – - – - – - – - – - Did you see the ball game?

Facts / Information – - – - – - – - – - Discuss the score

Ideas / Beliefs – - – - – - – - – - – - – “We were robbed”

Feelings / Emotions – - – - – - – - – - – I was devastated

Core – - – - – - – - – - – - – - – - – - – - In Rapport

During the coaching conversation we want to be in rapport but not all questions will get you there indeed keep you there. If you move out of rapport, don’t worry, just step out a layer, ask another question and come in again.

One final learning point for this session was to ensure that I use all my senses to understand what’s going on. Being able to effectively summarise is a key skill and using all senses to summarise can be extremely powerful. Look for facial expression and body language to help determine the state of mind that your coachee is in.

There was one instance during a coaching practice session that I summarised the situation and was a little out in terms of where my coachee was but having said that I learned that you don’t always have to be right. My coachee disagreed with my summation and went on to put me right, talk more and so the coaching session continued.

Paul Yates is now a qualified coach. References drawn on to write this article include what is coaching? and levels of listening.

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Are You in Need of Life Coaching?

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Many people fail to achieve the goals and level of success they had planned for their lives. Why is this? There are endless reasons behind this inability to reach one’s dreams. Many people are disillusioned by the real world after graduation; while they were fed lies for years that doors would open to them if they only tried, they soon realized the truth – becoming successful takes more than the desire to be so. Others have had tragic circumstances befall them and this loss stole any determination they once had. If you are disappointed in how your life turned out, what are your choices? If you are looking for an option with a high success rate, consider life coaching.

What a Life Coach Can Do for You

A life coach (LC) can help you find direction after years of twiddling your thumbs. With their help, you can reorganize your life and get yourself back on the track to your dreams. They work with you to set goals and make detailed plans that outline exactly what you need to do to achieve them. Their guidance can assist you in going farther in life than you ever thought possible. In fact, many professional athletes and performers give the credit for their success to the life coaches that aided them. Life coaches can help in all areas in your life, not just your career.

Life coaches also can help you transform yourself. Many people, after years or decades of being abrasive, pushing away loved ones, and avoiding relationships, start to regret their previous decision of being on their own. The truth is that sometimes you cannot make it alone. A LC can help you identify what first lead to you building up those walls of callousness and aggressions. By finding these emotional blocks and removing them, you will reveal a calmer, more loving self.

They also assist individuals with various kinds of addictions. Not all people get addicted to alcohol or drugs; others find themselves stuck in a rut of harmful action. Are you unable to stop certain behaviors that you know are sending your life down the drain? A LC can help you discover what led to these bad decisions. While this might seem similar to therapy, the goals are different. A therapist’s goal is to get you to talk about your past and accept it. A LC allows you to discuss the burdens you carry with you, and they also help you overcome it and move past it towards the life you always wanted.

How long does the guidance of a LC last? While this is up to you, the client, many LCs are willing to help individuals until they achieve the goals they set for themselves. These one-on-one sessions are different for everyone. Some immediately become successful while others take longer to find their stride. By sticking to the program, however, you can be confident you will see improvement. Look into life coaching today and start the process of creating a happier, healthier, more successful you!

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Life Coaching for Artists

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Pursuing a career in the arts has always been a difficult road. The terms “starving artist ” have been applied to the artists lifestyle for hundreds of years. We are all too familiar with the romanticized version of the struggling artist through literature and know about the horror of the unrealized impoverished genius. Simply put artists not often known for receiving big paychecks at the end of the day.

In many ways this makes sense. The one caveat about the artists life is that the artist spends a very large amount of their time working unpaid hours to perfect their craft or produce their product. It is this unique situation of unpaid hours and high risk that makes for the impoverished theme in an artist’s life. The field is competitive and with the bad economy there is only so much money to go to artistic projects. An individual may spend a large amount of time working on a project and not get the part or have their piece rejected. The artist can experience feelings of rejection, despair and worthlessness. What then?

One important thing to remember that the arts are a valuable asset to society. Artists produce works of creativity that relate to abstract concepts versus some other field like medicine. As mentioned above there is high risk involved with being an artist and an artist must get used to rejection. There are many reasons that an artist will get rejected from a project and it’s not always because their work is not sufficient. Investors, directors, or whoever is hiring may be looking for a specific look or product that you don’t have. The important thing is to keep on working and growing and waiting for the right opportunity to present your work. Prioritizing artistic goals and managing a healthy lifestyle is also essential for happiness and success. Here is where a life coach can be helpful for the emerging artist or mid career artist.

Many artists are known for their creative resources but are not always known for having the best sense of time management or business savvy. A life coach for artists is a highly trained individual that specializes in artists issues. A life coach can help with prioritizing goals, managing time, exploring options for making more money, and finding more opportunities to present work to. They can help with finding coping mechanisms for stress caused by competition and financial hardship. A life coach can also help with identifying negative thinking that may be hindering an artists work and reshape the thinking process to create a more positive approach to working as an artist and also seeing their dreams realized.

Being an artist is hard. But for those who know that the artists lifestyle is for them then finding a life coach might be a wonderful option for getting projects together and making those dreams come true.

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