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Neuro Linguistic Programming: Revolution Or Bunk?

Is it possible to reprogram the brain? Can reprogramming the brain change our behavior? Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a combination of Linguistics, Semantics, Hypnosis, Behavioral and Cognitive Psychology. It’s about how we interpret the world we experience via the input through our senses: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, tactile, olfactory and gustatory. It’s about how we represent the world to ourselves and to others.

The events in our life have continually accumulated and have been stored in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind, in turn categorizes, generalizes, interprets and filters the inputs related to the events. This process creates what is often referred to in NLP as “our map” of the world. Furthermore it is thought that the different events and experiences create “states” in our physiology that are stored by our physiology and which in turn give rise to our behavior or reaction in given situations.

It has been demonstrated how the way we interpret the world is shown through movement of the eyes. Individuals vary in the way they experience events. Some experience them kinesthetically, i.e. feelings, others visually, some verbally (auditory), or any combination thereof. For example, we may ask a person “how was the party last night?” If the eyes turn to the right and downwards, it is likely that person is searching within for a memory of how she felt at that party. A person who is more auditory may turn her eyes left, an indication she is recalling conversations or music. A more visual person’s eyes may turn upwards and to the right, indicating she might be recalling what people were wearing, or the decorations etc.

The responses those individuals will give to the question “how was the party last night?” could go something like this: “Oh! I felt really great, I had an awesome time”. The auditory person may say: “The music was loud but I could still hear what Bill said about Nancy”. The visual person: “The place was done out with silver balloons and blue ribbons, it created a really pleasant atmosphere.”

So can our interpretation or “map” of the world be altered or “tweaked” to suit our purposes, change our perspective, or change our behavior? I say a definite yes! With the reservation that any alteration or tweaking needs to be done by an experienced and ethical practitioner with the full consent of the subject; otherwise the results could be detrimental.

Due in part to its open-ended philosophy, NLP is controversial. It is at times criticized in the scientific community as unproven or pseudo-scientific. Amongst those who watch for fraud, it is criticized for exaggerated claims and unethical approaches by a number of practitioners. There is also some dispute among its developers and proponents regarding what NLP is and is not.


Anchoring: NLP’s Most Powerful Resource

Do you remember  Pavlov? He is the guy who realized that he could  condition dogs to drool by merely ringing a bell.  The had been conditioned to link the ringing of the bell with food.  In NLP we call what Pavlov did anchoring.

Anchoring plays a large part in our lives.  There is a particular song that I associate with a particular young lady  whom I was very fond of in college.  Though we went our ways many (many, many) years ago, and though I am very happily married to another), when that song comes on the radio, I remember this old flame, a special slow dance, a first kiss.  That sound makes me feel good.  It brings back of flood of positive memories and good feelings.  This song is an anchor to good feelings.  NLP gives you the chance to create your own anchors and to create them in other people as well.

What kind of positive influence would you have with others if they associate feeling good with you! How would that change your relationships with them?  Or, how much influence might be lost if they associate bad feelings with you?  The success of your speech, sales presentation, or even go out on a date proposal, depends on what kinds of feelings people associate with you.  NLP allows you to have some conscious control over impacting people’s feelings which they associate with you.

So how does anchoring work?

Someone has an intense emotional experience and at some point during that experience a specific stimulus is applied creating a neurological link between that stimulus and emotion.  I know of one lady whose husband had died.  During the funeral, in her moment of intense grief, people would touch her arm to offer condolences. Weeks later, this lady only had to be touched on the arm and all those intense feeling of grief would come flooding back.

A  stimuli can be anything: a touch, a facial expression, a tone of voice, the tapping of a pencil, the thumping on a podium, a particular gesture while speaking.   The most important thing is that the stimulus be used at a at a certain point of the experience and that it be  suitably unique when there is strong emotional stimulation so the two get associated with each other.

Let’s suppose you are struggling with issues of self confidence.  This is not unusual, now is it.  How might we use NLP to create a anchor to help you improve your levels of confidence?

First, think of a time when you felt totally confident.  It doesn’t matter what the occasion, what matters is the feeling.  Think of that time now.

Second, as you relieve the memory, make it bigger in your mind.  Make the positive sounds seem louder.  Makes the colors seem richer and brighter.  Build up the positive thoughts and feelings you associate with the memory.

Third, as the memory reached a crescendo, clinch your fist tightly.

Fourth, repeat this step several times.  Each time try to building the memory higher and higher so that the feeling you experience are richer, more powerful, and filled with intense positive emotions.  Each time, at the high point in the exercise, clinch your fist tightly.

Fifth, clear your mind of the memory.  Focus on something else, virtually anything will do.  Then, clinch your fist tightly.  If you have properly anchored your intense confident emotion to the clnching of your first. You should begin to light up those positive feelings of self confidence. Consider how useful in might be to fire off this  confidence anchor at times when you feel a bit unsure of yourself.  .

You can also do this to other people. The same principles apply.

The more intense the experience, the more  unique the anchor, and the more times it is repeated, the great the level of effectiveness the anchor will produce.

This article covers the very basics of anchoring a good practitioner course will give you many powerful anchoring techniques and applications from training to playing poker.

As mentioned near the beginning of the article imagine anchoring everyone around you to positive feelings. How about being able to anchor your boss to good feelings? Would this make a difference to your career? You bet it would.

If you could anchor yourself to states of extreme confidence power and motivation that you could then fire off at any time you wanted what would be different about your life? Imagine being able to do the same to the people around you. Would this increase you power as a business leader or manager? How about doing it to your children as a parent? The possibilities are immense.


Gain Self-Confidence Fast with NLP: Effective Neuro-Linguistic Programming Techniques That Will Boost Your Self-Esteem Radically For Successful Life (Positive Psychology Coaching Series) (Volume 1)
by: Ian Tuhovsky
publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, published: 2014-02-11
ASIN: 1499242085
EAN: 9781499242089
sales rank: 1117584
price: $4.59 (new), $8.27 (used)

Do you lack self-confidence to accomplish things in your life you would really like to?

-Are you afraid of quitting boring job and finding a new, better one or maybe starting your own business? -Afraid of socializing and meeting new, fascinating and positive people? -Afraid of finally packing your suitcase and going to that Euro-trip you promised yourself decades ago? -Afraid of approaching that beautiful girl sitting on a park bench next to you or accepting a date from that handsome devil you’ve met lately? -Not feeling worthy enough to ask for a promotion?

A sad fact widely known – because of social conditioning and many other factors – most people on this planet are.

I know how it feels, I was in the same place exactly. And then I found the way! It’s high time you did something about it too, because truth be told- self confident people just have it way easier in every aspect of life! Now, let me show you few simple and effective Neuro-Linguistic Programming tools that will help you overcome shyness and boost your natural self-confidence level permanently.

In This Book I’ll Show You:

-Basic tools tailor-made for the beginning of your adventure with Neuro-Linguistic Programming… -How to stick to your NLP routine and your personal change plan… -How to minimalize annoying social factors lessening your self-esteem… -The right mindset you should have and how to act to maintain high level of self-confidence and keep growing… -And many, many more! Table of Contents:

  • Chapter 1: What Is NLP?
  • Chapter 2: Getting Started On NLP Transformation
  • Chapter 3: NLP During Your Self-Confidence Boost Journey
  • Chapter 4: NLP To Maintain High Self-Confidence Forever And Never Feel Insecure Again
  • Bonus Chapter: When They Say You Can’t Do It….
  • Conclusion – Your Personal Success For Life!

Start acting now. Set the beginning of change !

What Does A Person Need To Be Happy

What Does A Person Need To Be Happy (Richard Bandler Video)

RICHARD BANDLER, co-creator and developer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, is arguably the world’s most influential contributor to the field of self-development and applied psychology for the first time brings these extraordinary techniques to everyday people, showing anyone how to completely change his/her life and enjoy a life of Being Happy.

Imagine for a moment that someone takes you into a huge room, packed with the most complex technology you’d ever seen and offers to show you how to operate the system so that you can instantly bounce your attitude from one of negativity and doubt to an attitude of optimism, cheerfulness and hope. How radically would your life change if you could switch, at will, from living life down to living life up? What would you be capable of achieving if you had a system guaranteed to upgrade your health and well-being, outlook and expectations? Is this something you’d be interested in? If so, read on …

Being Happy is written for the average person who wants to change his or her life and achieve his or her full potential. It is full of exercises and life-changing tactics utilizing the principles of NLP with amazing results. Written by Richard Bandler, co-creator and developer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and Garner Thomson, NLP Master Practitioner and Trainer.


Asking The Right Kinds Of Questions

Question markIn a previous blog post, I wrote about the importance of “Asking Empowering Questions.”  I wrote about the topic in reference to personal development – self-coaching, if you will.

Questions are also important in the leadership process of influencing people.  If you are a salesperson, manager, corporate executive, public speaker – basically anyone who finds themselves in a influential position of leadership – “asking the right kinds of questions” will make a huge difference in your ability to reach higher levels of success.

Have you ever noticed that the best essays, articles, speeches, counseling sessions, etc. usually begin with a well-formed question? Let’s consider several reasons why questions are so important:

  1. Question get the attention of others and engages their mind.  They begin thinking about possible responses to the questions being asked.
  2. Questions open the person to what you are going to say next – imagining that you will offer an answer (or answers) worthy of their consideration.
  3. Questions also help keep people focused.  With so many things vying for a people’s attention, questions bring people back to the topic at hand, alleviating the impact of .  One of the important factors in the leadership-presentation process is keeping your audience engaged and limiting the influence of various kinds of interruptions.
  4. Questions also allow you to anticipate objections to what you are saying?  Once those objections are stated by you in a well thought out question, the listener’s defenses are lessoned.  This allows you to easier address and overcome those objections during your speech or sales pitch.

Asking Empowering Questions

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Have you ever noticed that the best essays, articles, speeches, counseling sessions, etc. usually begin with a well-formed question?

The human brain to conditioned to answer questions. Questions draw people in and engage the mind. If used properly, they can make a tremendous different in the quality of our lives and those we connect with.

Wouldn’t it be great if this article could begin to us you how to start asking the right kinds of questions?

One of the absolute best skills and disciplines a person can learn is the art of asking the right kinds of question, replacing in the process the wrong kinds of questions. This ability can propel your sales success, your coaching abilities, your public speaking skills, etc. It can even help you be a better spouse, parent, and neighbor.

The first step in this process is learning how to change the way we see the world and ourselves in the world. That fundamental change we are talking about is seeing ourselves on the cause end of life, rather than the effect. When we operate from the cause end of life it prompts us to take charge of our life and to take responsibility for the decisions we make. Just this simple change of perspective prompts us to automatically begin asking new questions.

When I see myself on the cause end of life, unpleasant circumstances might prompt me to ask, “Why does this always happen to me?”
When I face similar situations, but see myself on the cause end of life, I might now ask: “What can I do differently in the future to achieve better results?”

Can you see how the first example is a disempowering question, while the latter is an empowering question?

You can begin to questions to improve almost any area of your life. Here’s a list of questions that you can apply to any area to make improvements.

  • What did I do well in this situation?
  • What are three things I can do differently in the future to achieve better results?
  • What can I do to get better results and take less effort to do it?
  • How can I make it so that I enjoy myself even more?
  • What level of proficiency do I want to gain in this area?

With a little bit of practice you will begin to ask questions that are a lot more empowering and useful. It requires discipline but the results of asking a different question can be quite amazing. It requires careful thinking about how to frame the question but the effort will be worth it.

Questions aren’t just useful for yourself. They can make a huge different in the lives of others as well.

Imagine how the productivity of your sales team might receive a boost if you asked: How can we help improve the team’s performance and productivity?

What if you were to ask your children: What could your father and I do to help you enjoy doing your homework?

How many different ways can you already think of to use new questions? Here are a few ideas:

Public Speaking: What one skill do I need to improve to make my speeches more effective?

Personal development: What is the one question I can ask myself that will give me the biggest result right now? (For a great resource on this very topics, see Noah St. John’s “Book of Afformations.” (Reviewed Here!)

Manager: What can I do to help you make this product produce the best result we have ever had?

Teacher: What is the one thing that most motivates my students to stay focused on learning?

Sales person: What is the central objection that I have to overcome to sell more ______?

You’ve probably heard it said: “Ask a stupid question get a stupid answer!” Well, now that you have read this article, you have probably thought of a few situations where your life might be improved by asking well thought out and constructive questions.

How can you employ this concept of asking empowering questions to improve your life and the lives of those around you?